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Be Kind to One Another.



Whether big or small, there are some things we choose to keep just to ourselves for fear of being judged or misunderstood. Not everyone has a person they can confide in with all of their secrets. Not everyone is brave enough to be an open book. 

When I was planning this post, I asked people to anonymously submit some of their secrets. Secrets that little to no one knows about them. 


I received some smaller secrets like:
"I have 8 tattoos."

"I'm a vegan, but it's a personal decision, and I never talk about it!"

"Sometimes I spend so much time dreaming that I don't have time to actually do all the things I dream."

"Sometimes I feel like an outsider in the blogger community because I'm younger than most bloggers."


I received a few bigger secrets like:
"I once had sex at church when no one was around."

"I've never been in a relationship and sometimes I think that I am not really relationship material."

"I have trouble trusting my friends and constantly question whether they like me because of how I look (I spend a lot of time on my appearance), or just for nerdy, silly me."

"Is emotional cheating a big deal?"

"When I think of the good things about me, I never consider anything physical. I have been told I exude confidence, but most of the time I feel insanely uncomfortable when someone tells me I'm pretty."x

"I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual, but if I came out to everyone it would be the biggest shock in the world. It's something I have always had in the back of my mind but never explored the option because I just couldn't perceive myself as being a bisexual girl."


Then I received this heart-breaking confession:
"I was sexually abused by my Grandfather, my Step-Grandfather and 2 cousins. All of them also abused my two sisters, and each of my sisters were also abused by a neighbor, and by a friend of the family. My Grandfather also abused my Mother and my Aunt. Why did my Mom bring us around him? She says she truly believed that he was better, as he had been treated and released by the State of California, who said he was, "Cured." No matter how hard we tried to protect the next generation, my niece was touched by her step-father's uncle and my daughter was touched by her cousin. Where it took my mother until junior high school to tell, (and my Aunt about 35 years), it took me 12 years to tell. The moment it happened to my daughter, she ran away and told me immediately, and my niece also told within hours of the incident. So even though we may not have been able to keep them completely safe, we educated them enough to know what to do in that type of a situation. I am sick that it happened to my daughter, but I am so proud of her strength to come forward, stop the situation and seek help immediately, rather than be scared to speak up and let it happen for years. No matter how careful you are, it can so easily happen. In my experience, it wasn't strangers that hurt me, but family that abused my mother, my aunt, my sisters, my daughter, my niece and myself. You teach your children not to talk to strangers, but their own family? How do you warn them about the people that are supposed to protect and love you most?" 


The people who submitted these secrets are from bloggers that I read every day. From people I follow on Twitter. From people I have had dialogue with before. The fact is, we don't always know the struggles people are going through or the battles they're fighting. 

So the next time you're getting annoyed at the person who just cut your car off or the old friend who didn't want to stop and have a lengthy conversation with you, don't take it personally. You never know what people are going through, and if you get upset with them, you could just be making it worse. So in the words of Ellen DeGeneris, 
And P.S. Thank you to the lovely people who submitted these secrets. While you might have not told these things to other people, sharing these secrets anonymously to me was so brave. 

22 comments :

  1. Wow... you have a way of getting stuff out of people..

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  2. This was a great idea Tiffany! Thanks for coming up with it and sharing with everyone :)

    It makes you truly realize we each face our own struggles day to day which are not always out in the open for people to notice. We really do need to be "kind to one another."

    xo, Val @ www.in-betweenlife.com

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  3. Lovely post! I love postsecret and I think it's great that you put it in blog post form!

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  4. This is amazing blog post. It's very inspirational and very true. We never know what a persons going through.

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  5. Wow, I wasn't expecting to see such a deep confession, but I'm goad whomever the person was was brave enough to share their story. Opening conversations likes this helps people they aren't alone and helps us to stop this from keeping happening. Thanks for this awesome post Tiffany! Great message

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  6. Holli's Hoots and HollersMay 12, 2014 at 2:56 PM

    Great post! I have been reading and following POST Secret for almost 5 years now and have a few books. Have you been to any of Frank's events or read every Sunday his blog?

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  7. It so true that you never know what people are going thru. I will never forget the time a customer at work gave me a nervous break down. My hubby was deployed at the time. The guy kept going on and on about the war. I told him nicely to shut up but he kept going on.

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  8. heartbreaking.you just never know what people are carrying. by the way, did something lead you to do this type of post? you might consider making it a series.

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  9. Great Post!! Holy Cow. Is this your postscript project?

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  10. This is an amazing post. I think if we all have a little more kindness and compassion for others, we might find the key to fixing the problems in the world.

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  11. Beautiful post. I really need to think about other people and what is going on in their lives before I get frustrated so easily.

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  12. I was so surprised and humbled by all of the responses I received.

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  13. We do! And I love that phrase so much. Ellen is such an inspiration to me because she's hilarious, but she also addresses a lot of issues that people aren't willing to talk about. I'm glad you found inspiration in my post. It makes me realize that everyone has things they aren't willing to share with people, so we need to remember that we don't really know everyone's struggles.

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  14. Post Secret is such an amazing site. Thank you for checking out my post!

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  15. Thank you so much! Reading all of these submissions really made me think about the little things I get annoyed about that people may do, and that I should try to be more understanding, because I don't know what they may be going through. It makes me think of the Disney movie, Up. He was a bitter old man, but that's only because he lost the love of his life. So random.

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  16. Right?! I wasn't expecting anyone to share something so personal with a perfect stranger. Granted, it was anonymous, but still. I'm humbled that that person chose my blog as a means to get something off of her chest. I hope that she has been able to deal with her struggles. I think everyone who submitted something for this post is so brave. There are secrets that I keep to myself, and for these people to share it with a complete stranger is just amazing to me. Thanks so much for reading!

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  17. I have always wanted to go to one of the Post Secret events, but I haven't been able to! I don't read the blog regularly, but visit every once in a blue moon. That site is such an inspiration. The things people are willing to share is just incredible. Even though people may not be able to share things with the people they know, it's great that they have an outlet to share them. This is the first step in getting assistance.

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  18. It's amazing how strong people are. They hold themselves up for as long as they can before they break down. We really don't know what people may be going through.

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  19. It was heartbreaking to read a few of these. The reason I came up with this post is because I was actually inspired by another blogger. She shared an activity she did like this with people at her school, and I thought it would be neat to do that with bloggers. I never thought of doing a series, but now I'm thinking about it! Thanks for the idea!

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  20. Thank you! I was so inspired by the people who submitted these secrets. It really makes me think about how I treat people. This wasn't any sort of project. I just came up with the idea from another blogger!

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  21. Thank you! I agree - we should have more compassion for others. We really don't know what battles others are fighting.

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  22. Thanks so much, Nina. I get annoyed really easily, and after reading these submissions, it makes me want to be more patient.

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