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Motivated Mondays: Don't Be a Love Hater.

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Nowadays, I feel like people glorify the single life. It's all about being single and having your freedom and not having to answer to anyone. That's all fine and dandy, but there's no reason to judge other people who are happily in love. There are so many people today who are so cynical about love, thinking that it doesn't exist. And why not? We live in a world where the divorce rate is at an all-time high and gay people who are in love aren't even allowed to show it. People speak so negatively about love these days when they're not in it.
I've had people tell me how I should be in my relationship with Jon. I've had friends who don't support my relationship. I've had people judge me for the things that I do in my own personal relationship. Why? I don't know, but what I do know is that the relationship between two people is something personal and really doesn't concern the rest of the world. I am in love with Jon. I have been for almost three years, and no one can take that away from me. People have tried though. 
I know Jon and I aren't the only ones with this problem. I hear it all the time. People judge other people's date nights, their social media posts, even their weddings. I mean, come on! Just because you don't agree with the way that two people show their love for each other, doesn't mean that you have to be negative about it. 
Of course, it's not just single people who do this. It's everyone. People who are unhappy in their relationship or think that everyone's relationship should be like their own. Everyone's become so cynical about love, and they keep trying to throw themselves into people's relationships.
Everyone's relationship journey is different. Just like every person, every relationship is unique to the people that are in it. I think it's time that we all start supporting each other and our relationships. Love is the most beautiful thing that anyone can have. Trust me. I know. And everyone's journey to find true love is different. Instead of judging other's romantic relationships, try extending your own love and help them be happy.
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34 comments :

  1. This post is fabulous and such a great reminder!!! I used to vent to my friends whenever something went wrong in a relationship, but I am slowly realizing that instead of supporting me and helping me through it, most people instead judge your relationship and significant other! Because of this, I try to always be supportive of a couple.

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  2. Such a great quote. You and your b/f look great. I would be lost with out my Hubby.

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  3. I am committed to staying uncommitted until I get out of school-- then the hunt begins! But I totally feel you about how people are salty about being alone or they just don't want to try to understand something they don't have!
    That said though, I think it's important to see where people are coming from with their concern. I have had friends who've been in, not abusive, but still not very healthy relationships. You know, the kind where you're not growing and one person changes to be the object of the others desire, instead of growing together. Some people really are just salty. Others are genuinely concerned-- even if it's out of them not "getting it." I'd definitely say it's important to know which is which because I've definitely been head over heels for a guy who, even if he was never really awful to me, didn't treat me the way I deserved. Not to say that's the case with your boyfriend, but if you know where people are coming from it's easier to figure out how to tell people "thanks but you've got it all wrong."

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  4. I really don't understand why people are so negative about love! Of course it's not always going to be how we see it on tv and in the movies--that's a fantasy--but that doesn't mean it's not amazing and wonderful! Good for you for saying how you feel and congrats on your happy relationship!! :)











    xo Megan, Lush to Blush

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  5. heck yes!! having a manfriend is the cat's ass if you ask me!

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  6. You look lovely :)
    Such an inspiring post, Tiffany!
    Hope you're having an amazing day xx

    ♥ ♡ ♥ ♡ Creme de la Chic ♥ ♡ ♥ ♡

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  7. I'm in a LDR and I totally understand! I've had friends tell me I should play the field more,or even break up with my boyfriend to date someone here!
    Sometimes even my mom doesn't think I should be in this serious of a relationship. But when it's love who cares?

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  8. What you said is true too, about people generalizing relationships based on their own experiences. Every relationship is so different, and we have to stop comparing our own experiences to others.

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  9. I've found that if I tell my friends about fights that Jon and I have had, they base our entire relationship off of that vent, when in reality, the good way way wayyy outranks the bad. Relationships are such a personal matter, and I've learned to keep all the negative things to myself.

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  10. I know exactly what you mean. I think when your heart is in the right place, you should definitely speak up about how you feel about a friend's or loved one's relationship, especially when the relationship is "salty" (I love the term that you used!). I, myself, have had relationships that I thought were going to last forever, but looking back, I realized that I was gaining nothing from them.

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  11. That's exactly the right attitude to have. Relationships should be personal to the two people in it, and even though it's hard to silence all of the people around you, I think it's important to keep it between the two of you. I hate that you have friends that want you to play the field. I've had friends that didn't take my and Jon's relationship seriously in the beginning. Once your friends and your mom realize that both of you are in it for the long haul, I'm sure they'll come around!

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  12. You guys are adorable! Loved the entry-- I find it so sad when other people consume themselves so much with what someone else is doing! It's exactly like you said, instead of judging or giving someone a hard time why not SUPPORT them??!

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  13. I have had the exact same problem and reaction! Now the only person I will occasionally talk to is a friend that is married. Her husband is my fiance's best friend, and the two boys are very similar. In addition, we've all been together for epic fights on both our sides (the two of them, or the two of us) so we see all of the ugly and good in our relationships. But still! Everyone gets in disagreements and, even fights!

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  14. It's interesting you bring this up, I have always been judged about being single and not being in a relationship. I have embraced it though and realized I have to love myself fully before I can be in a relationship and invest in loving someone else. That doesn't mean I am going to judge someone who is in a beautiful relationship and who is happy in it. I am sorry people don't support your relationship, that isn't their place and they can kiss it! ;)

    Be happy whether you're single or whether you're in a relationship, that's all I care about.

    Always,
    Mostly Lisa

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  15. I think a lot of times people glorify the single life so they feel better about being single (I have been known to do this.) At this point in my life, if I'm single - cool. If I'm in a relationship - cool, but not if it causes more stress (which, for me, they do.) But if someone else is single or in a relationship, it's their own life. Butt out - ya know?

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  16. Exactly! I am the same way. When I was single, I was all about the single life, and now that I'm in a relationship, I wouldn't have it any other way. I definitely think everyone should just live their life how they want to live and stop worrying about what everyone else is doing.

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  17. I completely agree! I always hated when people would ask me why I wasn't in a relationship when I was single. I felt obligated to list off a list of reasons, when really, I just hadn't found the right person yet. Everyone's journey is different. Whether you're single or not, it's your choice, and people definitely need to start respecting that.

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  18. Thanks so much! I definitely agree with you. Everyone follows their own paths, and every path is going to be drastically different. We should all just support each other, whether we're in a relationship or single.

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  19. Exactly! Not every relationship is perfect all the time. I feel like I only have a selective pick of people to actually talk to when I get in a fight with Jon because people in the past have taken it the wrong way. People fight. It's part of life. I'm glad you understand what I mean!

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  20. You guys are sooo cute! :3
    If I'm being honest, right now my heart is still being heartbroken from a break up that happened back in December. I guess you can say I wasn't expecting to spend Valentine's Day alone :( but surprisingly, I don't hate V-Day. To me, it's just another sure - sure I'll be moping in the morning about the relationship but eventually I'll get onto my day. I agree, people are so negative about love, and like you, I've had people disapproving my relationship based on the way he talked! Can you believe that?? The guy that I dated is talkative, outgoing, and up front and I have friends telling me, he's a bad guy, he's going to cheat, he's unfaithful, etc. which wasn't true at all. I don't know how you can judge someone on the way they talk!
    But, I'd rather be single than in an unhappy and unhealthy relationship. Just the other day, I spent 20 mins on the bus with a couple that was arguing non-stop.

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  21. You are too cute... I think it's our job to teach those unhappy in love ;-)

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  23. Great post!! I am single but not a hater!! I wish you the best in your relationship and don't you listen to what others say!!!

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  24. It's such a rude question, in my mind, to ask anyone why they're single. I mean, why is it your business as to why I am and why do you care? I felt obligated a lot also to list off reasons and make a crap story about why I've never been in a relationship. But now I just come out with a straight answer and leave it at that. I totally agree that everyone's journey is different, and I think that's awesome.
    Always,
    Mostly Lisa

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  25. To be honest, I hate V Day. Not because I hate lovers, but some other random reasons because I have some terrible memories of this day. Just keep ignoring the shit peeps are saying. Keep calm & carry on with your handsome. You both are just SO cute!

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  26. Thank you! And that's the perfect attitude to have - rather be single than in an unhappy relationship. I don't believe in arguing in public, so I would have been so annoyed by that couple you sat near on the bus. That's crazy. And that's not nice that the people in your life judged your ex by the way that he talked. That's so horrible and just plain mean. Jon and I actually aren't doing anything major for Valentine's Day this year, but even when I was single, I didn't hate V-Day either. I hope your V-Day ends up being awesome! There are lots of fun ways to celebrate V-Day with single friends or even by yourself!

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  27. This post is so true. People generalize relationships based on their own experiences and assume everyone else should be the same as them. You're so right, everyones journey is extremely different! You do you beautiful! :)

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  28. Thank you! I definitely agree with that!

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  29. That sucks that you have bad Valentines Day memories. Hopefully you'll be able to make good ones in the future.

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