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Motivated Mondays: 11 Things You Should Stop Doing If You Want To Be Happy.

So I'm off basking in the sun in Gulf Shores with my girls, but I still wanted to leave y'all with some Monday inspiration. 


SETTLING
Seriously. I used to be one of those people that dated people who I was attracted to and anyone who asked me (not really anyone, but you get the gist). I didn't picture our future together. I didn't think ahead. I lived in the moment, which is great for some things, but not when it comes to your future. As the saying goes, "better safe than sorry." Don't settle for the first guy (or girl) that comes along and asks you go out. Date around, see what you like, and start a serious relationship with someone you feel really connected to. If this other person has some deal breakers in their personality or life choices, then don't waste your time. Stop settling.

WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK
When I think about all of the hours I wasted on worrying about the things people are saying about me, I just feel silly. When people used to ask me what superpower I would like to have, I would say reading minds, because I always wanted to know what people were thinking about me (now if you asked me that same thing, I'd say teleporting. How cool would that be?! I could travel wherever, whenever. Hop over Paris for some wine after work. Go to Italy for some pizza for dinner. What a life.). The point is - who cares? In years, maybe even months from now, you won't even remember these minuscule things. What's most important is how you view yourself, and that's really the only opinion that matters.

HAVING A NEGATIVE SELF-PERCEPTION
You are who you are, so either accept it or get over it. That's all.

JUDGING OTHER PEOPLE
I know we're all guilty of judging people by what clothes they're wearing, the way they speak or how they do their hair. You need to stop that. Just like you shouldn't care about what people are saying about you, you don't need to be concerned with how other people are living their lives. 

LYING
Even the little white ones. It's a waste of time. Most lies lead to bigger lies, and ain't nobody got time for that. 

HAVING UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
Your boyfriend may not serenade you in front of the entire school cafeteria and your parents may not surprise you with a trip to Australia and your boss may not give you a promotion as soon as a position becomes available. Don't expect things to just happen for you, and don't expect more out of people than they're willing to give. Just give yourself a little reality check, get your head out of the clouds and hit pause on that fantasy.

LIVING IN THE PAST
The people that you put in your past should stay there. There's a reason they were put there in the first place. We all have a past, and we should be learning from it, not living in it. 

DOING TOO MUCH
Stop stressing yourself out by putting too much on your plate. Stressed people aren't happy people, and no one wants to be around a crabby, stressed out person. 

CONSTANTLY COMPLAINING
There are way too many things to be happy about, so why waste all of your time complaining? Trust me when I say, no one wants to hear it. 

HAVING PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE THAT BRING YOU DOWN
I've always thought that, unless someone is bringing something positive into your life, then there's no reason to have them there. If you have a friend that stresses you out more with her drama than she makes you smile, then you may need to reevaluate your relationship. Some people think that if you're friends with someone for a certain number of years, eventually you're just stuck with them. That's definitely not true. People grow up. We all take steps to become the person we were meant to be. We change and so do the people around us. Sometimes those changes make us realize that certain people may not need to be in our lives anymore. So unless someone is adding something to your life, then wave good-bye.

CHOOSING THINGS OVER EXPERIENCE
If I didn't want to travel all the time, I'd have an updated wardrobe, a nicer car and a laptop that didn't move slower than a turtle on sleeping pills. Would those things bring me happiness? Maybe. But not as much as experiencing things. I would rather spend my money on traveling or doing things with my friends and family or food (food is an experience, right?). Stop choosing material things over experiences because experiences are the things you remember about your life, not your brand new Gucci purse that will be stained and ruined within a month's time. 

Stop doing these things, and soon enough, Pharrell's "Happy" will be permanently ingrained in your head. My goal in life is just to be happy and share that happiness with others, and I hope I was able to do that for you today.

Now, I'll be going back to reading on the beach or swimming with the fishies or sipping a Strawberita. Happy Monday!

32 comments :

  1. Oh my gosh, thank you for this. Seriously helps. Being newly single again I realized that I was dating the wrong people. I'm a hopeless romantic, I can't help it. I also worry to much, stress myself about the little things, and I'm always stuck in the past when it comes to relationships because I'm always worried about whats going to happen. I have trust issues. Thank you for this post.

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  2. Thank you this is exactly what I needed today. I just got out of a relationship and it's hard trying to figure out who you are again when you've been in one so long. This definitely helps.

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  3. These are some great points. I love the lying one, especially because lying never amounts to anything positive!

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  4. Love this list! I agree with the settling point! So many people settle and it's so sad. Whether it's settling for a job or a relationship, people shouldn't have to settle because they will need be happy!

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  5. Shirley ~Light Love HopeJune 2, 2014 at 11:33 AM

    I really enjoyed this today. Thank you for this list!
    http://www.lightlovehope.com

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  6. Coffee Beans High HeelsJune 2, 2014 at 11:40 AM

    great advice!
    xo
    Orly
    coffeebeansandhighheels.weebly.com

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  7. Excellent advice! Thank you for sharing :)


    http://neatly-packaged.blogspot.com/

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  8. Doing too much=my life all the time. It's just so hard to stop!

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  9. Great list! I can totally relate to several of these, especially #2. It's hard to do but the less you worry about what others think, the happier you'll be.

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  10. For me, what's most important is taking the time to appreciate the little things, and making things happen for yourself instead of waiting for other people to do them for you! Enjoy the rest of your trip- I've been living vicariously though you on Insta ;)

    xo, Hima
    Hima Hearts

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  11. Great list. All of it is something we (especially as women for many of them) need to be reminded of often!

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  12. Wonderful list, Tiffany! Enjoy Gulf Shores. I'll be in Orange Beach later this month. Can't wait!

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  13. I'm so happy that you found this helpful! I've always been a hopeless romantic that dated guys who were totally wrong for me, so I completely understand! I was always a fixer. I just wanted to date guys who needed to be fixed, but then I realized that that was a huge waste of time. I used to have trust issues too, but once you find the guy for you, it's like everything falls into place!

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  14. I'm so happy that I could inspire you at the beginning of your week. Getting out of a relationship is always hard, no matter how long you've been together. I'm glad this could bring you some advice, and good luck on your journey to re-self-discovery! :)

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  15. It really doesn't! I used to lie about ridiculous things that I thought wouldn't matter, but getting caught in a lie is one of the most embarrassing things ever, so I don't do it anymore.

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  16. Nowadays, people just settle for what's easiest, and settling can make people miserable for a long time. Everyone has the potential to have everything in their lives be how they want it, so I say go for it!

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  17. Mine too! I always need to tell myself to just breathe and take a step back, but it's definitely easier said than done.

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  18. Thank you! The beach was a blast, but I'm excited to get back to my regular schedule! That is, until it's time to go to Europe!

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  19. Thanks so much for reading! A lot of these tips are easier said than done, but I'm slowly learning to incorporate them into my everyday life. #2 is definitely a hard one!

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  20. Appreciating the little things is definitely a big thing! Sometimes, smaller gestures count far more than bigger ones. I also agree with making things happen for yourself. It's a waste of time to think things will just happen on their own.

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  21. Thank you! I definitely still have to remind myself to do all of these things.

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  22. Settling has never been an issue for me really. I've been known to break up with a guy simply because I didn't feel any passion with them. If there's no true passion there, what's the point? You may be comfortable, which may make you feel like it's love, but it's not. It's settling. What has been a problem for me since forever, though, is worrying what other people think. I still do it. I can't seem to let it go. Though I must say, Mississippi Man has changed that for me a little recently. He doesn't care what ANYONE thinks, which inspires me to be the same at times. It's so unhealthy to worry about other people. And again, a waste of time.


    Hope you're having fun on your vaca. I'm still highly jealous. But I did just post some photos from my own beach vaca from last weekend on the blog today. :)


    Sarah
    http://fromdogwoodstomagnolias.blogpost.com/

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  23. Thank you, Kimberly! Gulf Shores was a blast, but I'm happy to be home. You're going to have a blast!

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  24. seriously love this post! So glad found your blog today! I found it from Emily's blog and I was checking out her favorite bloggers :) Excited to be following along now! Come say hi if you can, I love making new blogging buddies!

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  25. That's awesome that you were able to do that! I settled with guys a lot in my life, but when I broke up with them, I was done and wanted nothing to do with them anymore. I definitely agree with that if there's no passion, there's no point in staying in the relationship. That's awesome that your man inspires you like that! You're very lucky; a lot of people don't have that. Can't wait to check out your beach pics!

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  26. Yay! I'm so happy you enjoyed the first post you read by me! I absolutely adore Emily. She's so sweet. I will definitely be stopping by your blog soon!! :)

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  27. Love this list. I hope you are having a amazing time on the beach.

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  28. Spot on! You can't live a positive life with a negative mindset! Great list!

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